Child Support Has Ignored My Child Support Petition For Almost 2 Years

I filed child support on an ex-husband almost 2 years ago. They have done nothing with it. I have called for updates. They have taken so long to do anything with my papers, that my ex has moved multiple times including out of state. I have updated them every single time. I have even taken off work early and accepted penalty to drive to the courthouse, pay for parking in their Court building parking garage, and going into file the defendant contact update forms. I have given them every point of contact available and my ex is not a hard person to find. They have claimed that they cannot schedule a hearing because they have been on successful at serving him. They claim that they cannot schedule anything or enforce an order on somebody unless they serve them in person, even though that same state is able to finalize divorces without the other party being served in person after a certain amount of time. It makes no sense to me at all. I contacted the child support office in the out-of-state County where my ex now resides. I asked them what was done on the case because the only thing I ever received from my own counties family court is blaming, blame shifting, deflecting, and zero accountability. Family Court will blame the child support office, child support office will blame the family court, or else Family Court will blame the child support office in the other state where my ex now resides. Well, the child support representative at the out-of-state County where my ex lives confirmed for me today that they never sent any of the interstate paperwork that I had filled out 8 months ago to them. She said that it only takes a matter of weeks to receive papers and they never even start the process.

I am so frustrated and angry. I did the filing all by myself. I'm a teacher so I really can't afford a lawyer. I make too much for legal aid or any kind of government assistance or help, but not enough to be doing everything on my own plus paying an expensive lawyer. Lawyers are particularly expensive in my state, and almost nobody provides a free consultation. Consultations alone start at $300 and up.

When I did actually talk to a few lawyers, they apologized then admitted that they wouldn't be able to do much to help me. They said that the only thing they can do is file the paperwork, which I have already done, and show up in court for the hearing, which I do not have because he cannot be served. They admitted that even if I hire them, there's no guarantee that he can get served and they don't even deal with the servicing. I guess I am up a creek. I am so upset. I feel humiliated because people always wrongfully assume that I never filed child support, I don't want to hold my deadbeat scumbag cheater ex husband accountable, I am being easy on him, I am not doing my part, etc. They make me out like I am this big fat doormat. I am so angry and embarrassed.

What on Earth can be done to help me in my case? I am so frustrated and angry right now I could cry.