Fiance Does Not Want To Get A Lawyer For Prenup. Wants To Sign As Is.
Recently I (35M) had a lawyer write up a prenup for me, for my fiance (29F) to sign. I had to go through a financial disclosure and I now have the draft. My assets are substantially more than hers.
My lawyer is asking me when my fiance will get a lawyer so they can start the negotiation process. My fiance doesn't want to get a lawyer. She has little in the way of assets and about $14k in debt. It cost me a total of $2400 for the prenup and representation. I don't think she has those funds to hire a lawyer at this time.
Her response to all of this is she will sign anything I put in front of her. She understands the prenup and why it is needed and doesn't care. She just wants the prenup process to be over so we can get married. She has agreed to provide a financial disclosure to me or To my lawyer but does not want to get her own counsel.
She has also agreed to sign the prenup in front of a notary to affirm the signature was not under duress. I believe this is a marriage of love and will be lasting but with the income disparity between us a prenup is required.
We have spoken briefly about the possibility of a lump sum single alimony payment of we get divorced. But nothing in writing. I told her she may need a lawyer for those negotiations. And she is resistant again.
So here are my questions. Does she need a lawyer and is this something I should push her to do? If we divorce later will her not having a lawyer mean the prenup has less weight? Can my lawyer deny services to me because my fiance refuses legal counsel? Can I take the prenup and get her signature with notary public without my lawyers signature?
Update: I spoke with my fiance about ten minutes ago. I offered to pay all her legal fees for an attorney. She has agreed to seek representation. This has been a bit of an eye opener for me. I have enough that I don't think about how much decisions are controlled by money. And I did not communicate better with her. Something to work on in our future. Thank you for the advice!
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