I'm 38f That Was Illegally Adopted At Birth
I found out I was illegally adopted. My biological mother was going to give me to her friends (a couple we will call DD for the female and PD for the male) because they couldn't have kids and I was the result of an affair she wanted to hide. My bio mothers husband was out to sea in the Navy while this was all going on.
Her friends DD & PD paid for the hospital visits and everything. However, once my biological mother had me she couldn't give me away. She told them she changed her mind and couldn't do it.
Apparently there were some complications with my bio mom but I was fine. So my bio mother was going to stay in the hospital a bit longer. In order for her friends to cover the hospital, PD listed himself as my father on the birth cert even though he isn't. (This is what I'm told and it makes sense because I am not a genetic match to PD).
PD and DD pretended they were fine with her keeping me. They offered to take me home early and care for me while she recovered in the hospital.
PD and DD ended up taking off to a rural community with me and raised me to believe I was their bio child. There's zero adoption papers. The only way he got away with it so long is because he managed to convince my bio mom to put him as the Dad on the birth cert.
She claims to have tried to file a missing person's report but she doesn't speak English well and was hysterical. They didn't really understand what she was hysterical about due to her broken English and brushed her off. (Keep in mind this was 1986) No one attempted to get a translator. She then drove around trying to find me on her own but never found me.
DD had severe undiagnosed schitzophrenia which created a very difficult upbringing. DD was illiterate and I truly don't think she fully understood what she and PD were doing when they took me. PD could tell her anything and she would believe it.
PD was a cheater and liar. When I was in 4th grade he got a mistress and spend years trying to convince me to turn on DD and start calling his mistress Mom. He manipulated me and pressured me into keeping his secrets.
Between the two of them there was significant trauma pushed onto me.
When I was 16 my bio family found me on MySpace. I didn't know what to do. By the time my bio fam found me though, my bio mother's mental health was terrible from the entire ordeal. Everyone suffered from the whole experience, except PD. He got away with everything.
I was a teenager and had no idea what to do and I did not have good guidance to turn to. So I spent my 20s just trying to block it out with alcohol and drugs and abusive relationships. But I've been in therapy for the last 10 years and I'm healing as well as getting a grip on the reality of my origin. I'm sober now.
So my question is... is there anything that can be done against PD for kidnapping me? DD has passed away. My initial feeling is no because it has been so long since it happened but wanted to ask just in case.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and thank you for any input you provide.
[link] [comments]