I Moved To Europe With My Husband And Our Dual Citizen Daughter. We’re Getting Divorced Now And Without His Help I Can’t Work/rent Here In The Country. Do I Take My Daughter And Figure Everything Out From The Us? Legally Would He Owe Me Support Since All My Pre Marital Assets Went To Our Move.

I’ll try and make this brief but I’d love to answer any questions to explain. Basically my husband is a European national we met online and he moved to the US to be with me. We married (very quickly so he didn’t have to leave the US) I sponsored his green card and supported him in the US when he was illegal etc. we lived in the US about 5 years and have a daughter together. I also have a teenager from a previous marriage who lived full time with us up until our move. After 5 years, both of us lost jobs, my mother passed, and because of expenses and debt i had to sell my house. We made the decision together to move to his hometown to be closer to his family, and get a fresh start together as our marriage was at a tipping point. Before our move I cashed out my 401k to support us and pay for movers, storage, shipping, flights, veterinary papers and travel for 2 dogs and a cat. Another HUGE factor was my teenager made the decision together stay in the US with their parent and just travel to Europe for breaks and summer. My husband assuring me that we would be able to pay for his travel and for me and our daughter to be able to fly back to the US regularly. The sale of my house which was also intended to last (i purchased it years before we met) it was intended that I would keep some of the $ in savings just in case. It was also stressed many times before our move that I would spend at least the first year or two just learning the language and acclimating to my new home. After we moved he was a different person. He left accounts open in the US, kept paying bills for cars instead of sorting out the sales, paying thousands for 7 months of storage in the US when the shipping was supposed to be done before we left. Before my residency status was even approved the pressure for me to work was immediate from him and from his parents. I took my first language class 2 nights a week because full time immersion wasn’t feasible as we only had one car and he worked. After my first beginner class I was pressured further to work instead of lessons and because I do not speak the language here my options were temp jobs in warehouses. Working full time first and second shift for a year until they did not renew my contract to actually hire me.

From the moment we arrived he became crueler and apparently being on his home turf made him feel like I no longer mattered. He would explode and tell me they’re better without me, he wished I wasn’t here, telling me on the first Christmas I’d ever spent away from my family that he wished it was just he and our daughter. All the while being separated from my other child as well. Of course after each incident he would apologize sincerely and say he doesn’t know why he’s “like this”. I was isolated and trapped and have no friends don’t speak the language can’t get a job, been made to feel like I do nothing to contribute, that I only cause problems and how HE had many job options in the US and how I helped him with nothing there and he did it all on his own and I should here as well. So, after 2 years here and an anniversary trip that ended with him telling me he wished he was with anyone else there, I told him I was done and wanted a divorce if nothing changed. We spent nearly a year after living only as roommates. No affection or attention, no sex or even really talking outside of things regarding our daughter. Also during this time our European taxes have also been garnished and will for future returns as well because of credit card debt he had before we met as well.

I met someone and have a boyfriend now and suddenly he’s ready to divorce and wants to go to a mediator this week and discuss who will live where and that he would like to stay in the house we rent with our daughter and that I can maybe move to the bigger city about 40 mins away as they might have more options for someone who only speaks English.
He expects me to move out and somehow be able to find a job to support myself or find a place to live when I have no work history or financial security here. I do not have a vehicle. I only recently opened my own bank account here. I will not be able to live here and have a home for my daughter and a place for my other child to visit without some kind of financial support from him but it seems that he is very ready to be rid of me now.
I’m afraid that taking my daughter and returning to the US and handling our divorce from there where I have support might be my only option.

In an ideal world i would not at all consider even going back to the US, I would stay here in the country until I also have my dual citizenship (based on my daughter so divorce would not impact this) I would like to live here continue to learn the language and stay in the home I’ve made here with my pets and my daughter and co parent with him 50/50 etc. we are both good parents and I would never try and take his child away out of bitterness but I’m afraid he knows that my staying here without help is impossible and hopes I’ll just leave, or hopes he can just make me someone else’s problem because I have a boyfriend now, but the boyfriend isn’t even a factor in why we are divorcing. It would be happening regardless.

Legally would I be in the right to travel to the US with our daughter and handle our divorce from there where I have support? Legally is there any chance he could owe me some kind of financial compensation because of the loss of my very small but huge to me pre marital assets and because i truly cannot live and support myself here at this moment and he knows that.

TLDR : I supported my husbands US immigration gave him a daughter was fed lies and false promises in order to move our child to his home country. I can’t find work outside of factories and warehouses where I’ve been let go and nothing outside or daily or week contracts. I cannot rent here without work or financial history here. I do not know the language nor have been supported in doing so. After years of cruelty i decided to divorce. And we lived like roommates for a year, Now I am seeing someone and he wants to proceed immediately with the divorce and last night told me I should move out and maybe I’ll have better luck finding a job by moving to another city here. I can’t provide a home here on my own so I’m considering taking my daughter to the US and handling this from there. Or if he might owe me support here . Can I refuse to leave?

Edit: I’m in Belgium