My 23f Ex Girlfriend And I 24m Bought A Car Together Where We Went 60/40, Everything Is In My Name Including Ownership, License Plates, Insurance, Monthly Repair Payments, But She Has The Car And Has A Restraining Order Against Me Over False Assault Charges. What Can I Do?

Hello , for some context I dated this girl for 9 months and around my birthday she decided to split the cost of a $10,000 dollar car where she would pay more as a gift to me. Things got very rough in the relationship, I was finding out she lied to me about so many things, for example her past experiences, her parents dying, hiring a sex worker to pose as her aunt to meet me because I was telling her I want to meet the family since she met my mom, lied about family wealth/lifestyle, showed me photoshopped images of “herself” in exotic places, and also is dealing with BPD in which she is not taking her meds. She had a history of doing coke which I didnt find out about until late and found out she did it during our time together. And her general toxic manipulative behaviour 24/7 was really starting to make me detach myself.

I went on a trip to a wedding which had been planned for months on months and told her months in advance about. Unfortunately the dates tied in to her birthday which she was upset about. I tried to treat her as best as I could before I left, spending quality time and giving her some gifts and having nice nights out.

I then go on my 3 day trip to Calgary, and during my trip I sensed her messages were short and dry. I tried asking what was up many times but she gave generic excuses like im playing a game or talking to friends or doing whatever. On my second night there Im having dinner with my sister and brother In Calgary and I get a call. Its from the police. They tell me that they pulled my now ex over, and they wanted to confirm that the car isnt stolen and im aware she is driving it. As I am the owner of the car. I get her through that and they let her off the hook even though she doesnt even have her G2driving license. She doesnt even have her G1… but anyways she gets through and she called an uncle to come take the car to her building garage as the police did not allow her to drive off from the scene. The uncle drops her at a gas station where she then stops replying to my messages and calls. I send a few messages every minute for a couple minutes just trying to see if everything is ok. Then my calls and messages stop going through because shes turned off her phone.

I was in my hotel and it was around 10pm that she stopped answering. I decided to stay awake until she messaged me just so I know shes atleast safe. I get the message from her around 2:30am. Some bullshit about her friend being drunk and causing a scene at a shisha lounge and her having to take her friend to the hospital and get her situated. I see the text, instantly call it bullshit and go to sleep. I dont message her for the next 2 days. And neither does she. Time passes I come back and find out that she cheated on me and was with the guy that night . I also checked her phone when I had the chance and saw all the messages she was hiding from me. It was a tough read lol. Kissed on the first day and almost had sex the next day.

But ANYWAYS , she cheated on me and I broke up with her. Or atleast tried to many times as she would have breakdowns and Id end up feeling bad… but she threatened to kill herself one of the times with me in the car as she was driving. Really a scary moment LOL.

When we broke up it wasnt the most friendly way. I wanted to take my plates off the car so its not driveable until I can collect it. But she reacted angrily when I said that over text. Some hours pass, its now 3am and the police knock on my door asking my brother who answered on my whereabouts. Once I heard my name i genuinely felt my heart stop, I didnt know what they could possibly be here for and they sounded very stern on my name. I was shaking the entire time, my whole family was at the door wondering what the hell is going on. The police show up at the door and as parents they ask their son what they did and their son says I dont know? They didnt believe me and all I could say was I dont know what theyre here for. They then tell me Im being hit with 2 assault allegations and have to lawyer up and go to court. I couldnt believe it.

So this woman is crazy and has my car. What can I do? She has a restraining order against me and doesnt pay for anything that has to due with the car. Im still paying the monthly repair fees which was a total of $4000. I also rented a car and I let her drive it and she hit something. The bill was $4000 and she said she will pay me but hasnt. Am I allowed to get the car back? And If I can how do I go about this?

tl;dr I dated my ex for 9 months and she turned out to be a dishonest disloyal manipulator. We bought a car together for my birthday in which everything went under my name and shes basically holding it hostage and set up fake assault charges and a restraining order against me.