My (50m) Coworker Sexually Assaulted Me (25f)

I invited a massage therapist to my home for his services. I met him at work.

We work for the same company. He is an employee from a different department. We’ve only had a few interactions in passing. Brief, surface level conversation. He was always pleasant and friendly towards me.

Our third encounter he shares that he’s a massage therapist and advertised the different kinds of services he offers. He gave me his business card, and it seemed legit. I wanted to support his business, and I have received professional massages on and off for nearly a decade. He offered me a great deal, he set the price point 50% less than your average massage would cost.

He explained that he can either service clients in his home or can travel to them for an additional fee. I don't have a car. I live in a big city, and use public transit to get around. His residence is far outside the city, so I requested that he comes to me.

The massage was two hours long. He began touching my genitalia towards the end. I froze. I decided to not resist, and hoped it would end soon. It ended up going on for a few minutes. Then he put his mouth to my groin. At that point I vocalized that I’m done with the massage. He smiled at me, then proceeded to kiss me on the lips twice. He made contact with the first kiss but the second time I pushed his face away. He then came toward my face for the third time but kissed my cheek instead. I felt like it was all happening so far. The situations took an unexpected turn. I did not want to react. I just responded with a small smile and said that’s enough. He asked me if I was sure that I didn’t want to extend the massage. I reassured him again that it was enough, and I thanked him for his services.

I remained calm as he was packing up his equipment. I didn’t want the situation to escalate. I live alone, and I felt vulnerable. I’m a thin woman, and he is a middle aged man with an average build. Right before he left he told me not to tell anyone.

I’m pretty shocked. One, because I feel like I got assaulted in the most cliche way. Just fucking dumb. And two, I didn’t want to believe that someone employed for the same company as me would be capable of doing this. The only person I’ve told so far is my closest friend. I’m going to tell my boyfriend, and I don’t look forward to it. I want to file a police report tomorrow morning, and I’m not sure what the outcome is going to be, but I don’t want to hide this from him. I just feel like a clown.

Additionally, I feel like I should present the police report to HR of our company. I would appreciate any advice. Thank you for reading.