My Ex-husband Is Trying To Steal My Home! He Left Almost Ten Years Ago And Hasn’t Paid Any Mortgage!

I will try to keep this to the facts. My ex and are were dual military. he lied and went overseas on family orders in the summer of 2017. We officially separated in September of that same year. It was difficult to get him to send us money for household expenses as I has recently separated and was dual enrolled in college and had two small children at home. I repeatedly asked for him to begin divorce proceedings because you can’t sue a service member while they are out of the country.

Finally, in 2019 he retained a lawyer and filed the divorce but that was it. It sat there until I obtain MSA, went through it with him (he was in the states for”reasons”????) which we agreed to and signed before he went back overseas. I supplied this MSA to my lawyer, who processed it into an order that we the signed separately that the judge accepted and it became our divorce decree.

THE JUDGES ORDER;

I have primary custody of the kids

Covered by his insurance (we share excess expenses)

”Parties shall jointly own PROPERTY pending sale, parties shall hold the family residence as tenants in common. As soon as practicable after effective date of this agreement, the parties shall duly execute, acknowledge, and record a deed transferring title with respect to the residence from themselves as tenants in common. The change of title from tenancy in common, however, shall not be dependent on execution or recordation of such a deed”. DIRECT WORDING FROM ORDER

He was to pay child support that was the BAH he received for our children which covered his mortgage payment and his child support. He stopped paying 6mo after the order was issued in 2021 then requested a reduction 2022 that was granted in 2023 so he has basically not paid any homeowner expenses or live in this home in YEARS.

I have attempted to follow the judge’s order and offered a split that give him 5% just to be civil. He didn’t put money down when purchased, he didn’t even help the first few months before we transferred. But now after I’ve not foreclosed, replaced the furnace and added air conditioning and paid off both the loans we got years ago, he wants me to sell and take half!

This is the only home kids know. We still live here! I’ve cared for this home! And ignored us and it! Can he do this? Can court!

I live in California ????