My Husband Wont Sign Our Divorce Papers So I Can Finaly Move On

Hi everyone, I'm writing this on behalf and from the perspective of my girlfriend for simplicities sake.

TW: selfharm
I'm gonna start with a little background first, I (24f) live in germany but studied and worked for about 4 years in Boston (when I was 19-23). After a bit of getting to know the area I fell in love with the city and honestly planned on staying longer term... Untill I met my Not-Yet-Ex-Husband (m24). I was visiting my family in Germany and coincidentally he was stationed at an army base in my area (He was in the army during this time). We met on a Dating site and immediatly hit it off. We went on a couple of dates in Germany and when we both returned to the US, we stayed in contact. He was stationed somewhere in North Carolina, so for the first couple of months it was a long term relationship, but we regularly visited each other. After a very short time of being together, he asked me, if I wanted to marry him. I was a bit reluctant but also incredibly in love and already envisioned our entire lives together, so I agreed. We had a tiny little wedding with only our best friends almost immediatly after getting engaged. Shortly after, the picture of my perfectly happy marriage started to crumble. It started one day when I was supposed to visit him in NC but he just up and forgot about me, went to sleep and literally left me waiting at the airport for hours. Then one day I found out he was cheating on me. I was so incredibly angry and locked myself in the bathroom. He stood outside and apologized and cried and screamed and said he would do better yadda yadda. I tried to get over it and give our marriage another chance. Over the next few months, I tried to save our relationship, he moved to Boston and it almost felt like the time we first fell in love. Until I found out he never stopped cheating. He just hid it better. He even cheated on me with his ex. At that point I couldn't take it anymore, I cut off all contact, blocked him everywhere and just wanted to forget it all. Even at that point it was so so hard for me to get over him and all the images and plans and dreams and the future I had for the two of us. I was already diagnosed with depression, which he knew of. I fell into such a deep hole, I had numerous panicattacks every single day and hurt myself and couldn't function properly anymore. When I told my mom, that I didn't want to live anymore, she promptly visited me in Boston and after I saw her see me in this state, I decided I should do something, so I went back to germany and admitted myself to a hospital, thankfully I was still insured in germany. The time in the hospital helped a lot to try and overcome the trauma and find people in similar situations I could connect to. After I was discharged I had to return to Boston for about 6 months. I was being paid sick leave during my time in germany and needed to work those months in order to not have to pay it all back. Even though I really dreaded that, because I knew he would still be in the area.

I filled in all the necessary divorce forms and had him sign them. However the court didn't accept them, because there was some formality issue. So I hired an attorny to manage all the formulars, I didn't want them rejected again. But now he won't sign his papers and I don't know why. He just ignores my emails (I blocked him everywhere else) and my attorney says, she can't do anything about it but keep messaging him. I don't want to drag him to court, because I'm scared they will grant him allimony or something because he's an US citizen and was in the army and I'm not. Also I'm now permanently back in Germany and don't want to go back there for court hearings. I'm also even more scared now, since Mr Orange wants to get rid of non-fault divorces.

I'm not sure what else I can do or try to get him to sign the papers, I just want to forget him and leave this all behind me, but that's not going to work, if he just won't sign the divorce papers. If any of you have experiences or tips, please please let me know. Also if you have any questions, please ask them.

Thanks for reading everyone <3