S/a By Husband - Kansas

I posted in ask docs but I was told to post here.

I have not showered yet or had bowel moment

I can’t go to the er tonight I have a 9 month old and a 2 year old. I will go tomorrow.

What happened:

I was out last night for a girls night I was drinking. When I got home I went straight to bed a little bit later my husband came to bed. I was super drunk and kept falling asleep he was being really touchy, fingering me and I kept telling him no and was pushing him away. While anyways he wasn’t happy with me turning him down because he rammed it in my butt. There was no lube.

It hurt insanely bad. It was honestly the most excruciating pain I have ever experienced, but it didn't last more than 5 minutes.

He admitted it was on purpose and I already set the boundary that it's a big no for me. I freaked out and kicked him out of the bed and I haven’t spoken to him yet today.

Am I overreacting if I want to charge him? What do I do? We have kids and a life together but I feel so violated :( I don’t know if I can ever move on.

I have some questions:

what happens at the hospital? If I can’t go to the er tomorrow is a dr appointment the same? Do they tell the police? We have two kids will he not be able to see them if I charge him? If I charge him we will obviously divorce. What happens then? He provides for our family.

Edit to add I am 30 and he is 36. We have been together for 8 years.

He knew I was really drunk and that’s why I went to bed I also rarely drink or go out.